In a world where conversations about female pleasure are finally opening up, male pleasure still tends to be boxed into one narrative: solo masturbation. Male sex toys? Still too often seen as shameful products or used as a last resort. As a result, many men who want to explore new sensations hesitate to take the leap and even more so to talk about it with their partner.

But intimacy should never be a taboo in a relationship. Quite the opposite actually: when shared, desire leads to deeper connection, trust, and fulfillment. Talking about sex toys as a man can feel like a real challenge. We worry about saying the wrong thing, being judged, or being seen as dissatisfied or worse, as wanting to replace our partner.

But a sex toy isn’t a rival. It’s not a « plan B », nor is it an admission of failure. It’s a tool. A catalyst for pleasure, for communication and exploration. In this article, we’ll discuss how to bring up the topic without shame, how to open the dialogue with mutual respect, and how Manwan products can serve as simple, effective conversation starters.

Why is it still so hard to talk about?

Male sexuality is still trapped in a tangle of outdated beliefs: masculinity equals performance, pleasure means penetration, and using an accessory equals weakness. The result? Many men don’t feel safe expressing their curiosity, especially when that curiosity involves something beyond their own body.

According to a 2021 IFOP study, only 18% of men have ever used a sex toy, compared to 49% of women. And yet, the interest is there: over 60% of men surveyed said they would like to try a sex toy with their partner but didn’t know how to bring it up.

It’s time to break those myths. No, a sex toy doesn’t replace a partner. No, wanting to explore doesn’t mean there’s something missing in the relationship. And yes, wanting to enrich your intimacy is a sign of maturity.

Set the tone: talk about intimacy, not problems

Before jumping into the topic of adult toys, take a step back and talk about intimacy in general. Choose the right moment, a calm, pressure-free setting. Avoid post-sex conversations or tense moments. Timing is key.

You can keep things simple:

• “Have you ever thought about trying something new, just the two of us?”
• “I read something about male sex toys and thought it might be cool to talk about it together.”
• “Lately, I’ve been noticing new things about how my body responds, and I’d love to explore that with you.”

The goal is to create a space for open, non-judgmental listening. It’s also a great opportunity to open a broader conversation around pleasure, fantasies, and evolving needs.

Present it as a tool, not a competitor

One of the main barriers to talking about sex toys is the fear of being replaced. That anxiety can affect both men and women. That’s why it’s crucial to reinforce the idea: a sex toy isn’t a rival, it’s a tool designed to enhance intimacy.

At Manwan, our products are built to support and deepen your connection, not to replace it. For instance:

• Manwand Evo : This masturbator / stimulator offers deep frenulum stimulation, a highly sensitive and often overlooked area. It’s designed to slow things down, to feel differently, and to experience pleasure together. Its ergonomic design makes it easy to use with a partner.
• Holden : this accessory is a hands-free add-on for the Man.wand Evo, allows for full body contact, shared touch, and eye contact, while freeing up the hands for intimacy.
• Ryzer : The penis extender is a soft liquid-silicone sleeve that enhances girth and adds new sensations, turning familiar encounters into something fresh.

These aren’t tools for replacing intimacy, they’re tools for deepening it.

Lean into curiosity and play

Talking about sex toys doesn’t have to be awkward or serious. Why not make it a fun and playful, shared adventure? Browsing websites, reading articles (like this one!), or watching educational videos together can open new perspectives.

You could say:

• “I found this toy designed to stimulate a spot I’ve never explored. Want to check it out together?”
• “I want to try something new, not because something’s missing, but to add a new layer to what we already have.”
• “Want to discover what turns me on, together?”

Playfulness eases the tension. It turns the object into an invitation, a way to connect more deeply.

Disarm fear with clear communication

Some partners may react with hesitation or even insecurity:
“Don’t I satisfy you anymore?”
“Is this something you want just for yourself?”
“What about me in all this?”

These reactions are natural. The key is gentle, honest communication. Reassure your partner that your interest in a sex toy is a way to build intimacy, not escape it.

Point out that using a toy together isn’t about replacing the relationship, it’s about nurturing it. This can also open the door to other important conversations, like body changes, lower libido, stress, or the need for slower, more mindful sex.

What if your partner brings it up first?

If direct conversation feels too difficult, there are other ways to bring the topic into play. You could offer a curated gift box, or suggest reading a blog post or watching a podcast together. Some partners are already curious but hesitate to bring it up for fear of offending you.

Creating space for a two-way dialogue, even if it starts gently, can invite your partner to open up, too.

Male sex toys: redefining pleasure as a couple

Using a sex toy together isn’t just about adding a new item to your bedroom. It’s about questioning routines, shifting away from performance-driven sex, and anchoring yourself in sensory awareness.

Manwan’s tools are designed for that transition,  especially in situations like:

• Age- or stress-related changes in erection quality
• Exploring variety without taboo
• Navigating physical challenges (mobility issues, post-surgery recovery…)
• Seeking deeper, slower, more nuanced pleasure

Conclusion: What if the toy came after the conversation?

Talking about sex toys as a man isn’t a sign of weakness, it’s a sign of self-awareness, and care for your relationship. It’s a way of saying, “I want to keep growing with you.” And really, is there any better proof of love than that?

Manwan sex toys aren’t competitors. They’re tools for connection, allies for shared pleasure, and powerful conversation starters. Dare to talk. Dare to explore. Because couple intimacy deserves all the nuance, at every age, in every form.